Do you realize that the moment you are making your resolution, your wish has already come true. Think about it. The moment you make the resolution to stop smoking,to be nice to someone,or to lose weight, it is already so. Right there and then, you have stopped smoking. You are being nice. You are losing weight.
You don’t need the resolution anymore. And that is a good thing. Let me explain why.It all has to do with your beliefs. If you believe that you need a resolution to make a change, it obviously implies that you believe that you haven’t changed yet. This is the basis for frustration and struggle. And to free ourselves from this, we relapse into our old behavior. And that is why many of us “fail” in keeping our “promise”. We judge ourselves. We feel guilty.
If you are a regular reader of this blog you know that the key to saying farewell to unhealthy habits lies in what you think, what you believe. (see for example this post).
By giving up the resolution right after you have made it, you are free. Focus on the here and now. Be aware that the change you desire has indeed already and instantly occurred. It is true and real. You can believe it instantly. Enjoy the relief. Exhale deeply and mentally say to yourself: I am losing weight now, I am smoke free now, I am nice now. Be fully aware of the relief and the freedom , and grateful too.
At the beginning and end of each day slow down your mind and repeat the above affirmations. Do this for 21 days. You will be amazed and you can say farewell to resolutions.